Tips For Sleep Challenges

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Welcome to the February 2013 Natural Living Blog Carnival: Addressing Sleep Challenges. This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Natural Living Blog Carnival hosted by Happy Mothering and The Pistachio Project through the Green Moms Network. This month our members have written posts about how they address sleep challenges in their homes.

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If you have read Life With Captain Fussybuckets AT all….you know that Captain Fussybuckets himself is a sleep challenge.  He was a sleep challenged infant, baby, toddler, and is currently a sleep challenged preschooler.  So, I've finally realized that this is who he is and it really is okay!  Here are some random tips that I've compiled that have helped us deal with a sleep challenged child and also some things that might not have made a difference, but things we did differently with #2, Baby D, who is an awesome sleeper!

1.  Babywear.  Baby D took many naps in the sling or Beco early on.  He was a catnapper and it helped me get out and exercise or get things done around the house, so it worked.  I was actually kind of bummed when he stopped napping in the carrier!

2.  Don't be afraid of the pacifier.  Captain Fussybuckets never took to liking the pacifier and we didn't force the issue.  Of course now, at four, we're happy we didn't have to break him of the paci, but he did have his own sleep crutches that we had to get rid of.  For awhile, he nursed to sleep and after that, he had to have a bottle, car, or stroller to fall asleep.  After we got rid of the bottle at 18 months, he slept through the night.  Go figure.  But Baby D loves the paci and he's still using it at naptime and bedtime to fall asleep.  No biggie, he won't be taking it to college!

 

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3.  Don't freak out over naps.  Both of my boys were catnappers.  They loved 15-45 minute naps up until they were about 6+ months on. I kept scouring the internet for tips on extending the naps and scheduling them so they'd sleep the same time each day.  It just didn't work for the boys and that's really, really okay.  It stinks because of the "sleep when they sleep" advice, but they're not going to get sick or be horrible sleepers for life or never nap if they catnap early on!  So just go with the flow and do what you can, but know that they'll sleep longer when they're good and ready.  I personally think it's sweeter when they take longer naps later on than be awesome sleepers early on and then teething or sickness or just growing up shocks you into the realization that they are their own little person!! 

4.  Have a plan, but have a few back-up plans, too.  Most co-sleepers didn't plan to be co-sleepers.  Well, okay, maybe some did, but most everyone I've talked to says they had great plans to just lie the baby down in their crib and peacefully sleep the night away in their own room.  (ha!) We weren't all night co-sleepers many times, but there were times when we had to be and especially when we were travelling, we were forced to go to Plan B.  Have a few places where Baby or Child can sleep, don't limit it to one place.  This goes for travelling, too.  Not all kids will sleep in a Pack N Play, no matter how nice they are.  There are travel beds, co-sleepers, foam bumpers, mattresses on the floor, and of course, good ol' co-sleeping.  

5.  Don't upgrade to a "big boy" or "big girl" bed too soon.  The Captain moved to his own "big boy" bed when he was about 26 months old, when his baby brother was about a month old.  It worked for him.  He didn't realize he could crawl out for a LONG time, but when he did, he didn't stay there.  Baby D is currently 26 months old and I can't imagine him being in anything but a crib!  He is completely content with his crib and no body else is waiting to use it, so it's perfectly fine for all of us.

6.  Get a great monitor for peace of mind.  We have used our Angelcare motion sensor monitor since Captain Fussybuckets was a baby.  We are able to sleep better knowing he's okay.  We also love our video monitor because you just can't be in the same room with Baby all of the time and it helps to be able to peek in on them while they sleep.

7.  Sound machines work wonders.  When the Captain was a baby and waking every 45 minutes at night, we were desperate.  For a few months, we had three sound machines in his room, hoping that they would help.  And they did, but really, three was a bit excessive.  :)  Now we have air purifiers in all of our rooms and they have worked really well!  You can also soothers, sound and sleep machines, and cute music makers like our favorite, the Soothe & Glow Seahorse.

8.  Be prepared for sleepwalkers.  The Captain began walking in his sleep around 2 1/2.  He would walk into our room in a state of confusion and at first, we'd just pull him into our bed.  After a few nights, we realized this was becoming a habit and he was walking straight to our bed as early as 10:30 PM!  So, we went to Plan C and set up a little couch in the corner of our room.  Since then, he has come straight to that couch almost every single night.  We've gotten used to it and well, again, he won't be doing it in college so it's okay.

9.  Choose a bedtime that is best for your family.  We used to get the Captain to bed by 8 PM every night.  We just thought that was a good time for a baby to go to bed for the night.  But, when we moved to work as houseparents at a children's home, we realized that a bedtime wasn't really going to work for us.  We had late night things to attend, not to mention Wednesday night church that ended at 8, I believe.  So, we just went with the flow.  If we had to keep him up late, he adapted.  I remember very clearly the night we stayed up to watch the series finale of "Lost" and took him with us.  I think he finally crashed around 10 PM and he probably didn't sleep in the next morning.  Now the Captain's "bedtime" is between 8:30 and 10, depending on if he napped that day and what we have to do the next day.  Baby D is pretty much the same, although he loves sleep a lot more and actually asks to go to bed.  

10.  Do what's best for your family.  Everyone has advice and some even will tell you that what you're doing is wrong.  But, you and your spouse are the only ones who have to be up with the baby every night, so only you really have a say.  If co-sleeping feels right, do it.  If sleep training feels right, do it. If it's working for you, your spouse, and your baby and it's safe, then, it really is up to you.  

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If you have any great sleep tips or stories, I'd love to hear them!

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Magic Bumpers – A Co-Sleeper’s Dream!

I first learned about Magic Bumpers on another blog review, and I immediately thought of all the ways our family could use them, so getting to review Magic Bumpers was a very special treat!  We were sent two 24" Magic Bumpers:

They arrived JUST in time!  We picked them up at the Post Office on the way to my parents' house for the week.  Travelling with kids has always been a little stressful for me.  Do you know those kids who will go to sleep ANYWHERE and then sleep through the night as if they're in their own bed?  My kids have NEVER been like that.  EVER.  In fact, I think it's very fair to say that I avoid going places that we have to stay overnight with the boys because they do not adapt well to change.  But, Daddy was gone for a week to church camp and we wanted to visit our family, so I was willing to put up with the lack of sleep.  Baby D doesn't sleep well in the Pack N Play anymore, so I was prepared to share a queen sized bed with him…..but then the Magic Bumpers came in the mail and changed our whole week!  When we got to my parents' house, I installed them under the sheets.  (The sheets were in a drawer.  Mom, please don't be mortified that I posted this picture of the wrinkled sheets!  :)

Magic Bumpers are PERFECT for the co-sleeping family or if siblings have to share a bed.  Maybe you have slept in the same bed with a cuddler…or just a kid that inches himself over to you through the night and by 5 AM, you're sleeping on your side, about to fall off the edge of the bed.  Well, the Magic Bumpers kept Baby D safe on his side of the bed, OFF of me, and he felt secure enough to sleep all night long, every night we were there!  

I was well rested and didn't have to worry about him falling off of the bed if I couldn't stay in bed with him while he napped or slept at night.  The Magic Bumpers were such a great travel item!  They're made of foam, so they're super light and easy to transport.  And since there is no "hardware," you just slip them under the sheet, they're so easy to install, too!  Just place them where ever you like, the options are endless!

 

Magic Bumpers are very versatile.  They can be used from infancy to kids who weigh 100 lbs.  They can be used for co-sleeping, a guard rail, and a bed divider, like we did!  Magic Bumpers aren't recommended for crawling infants, as they are fairly easy to crawl over.  If Baby D were awake, he could easily crawl over the Magic Bumpers, but (wouldn't you know it?), Captain Fussybuckets' twin sized bed was pushed right up next to mine, so I wasn't concerned with Baby D crawling off of the bed.  (You do have to be careful not to use Magic Bumpers if your child can crawl and not yet climb off of the bed.)

Magic Bumpers are sold in 2s, 3s, and 4s, and they even sell a bag to carry them all in.  A two pack of Magic Bumpers sells for only $16.99 and can be purchased at Magic Bumpers or Amazon.

The awesome folks at Magic Bumpers wants to give away a set of two Magic Bumpers (just like I received to review) to one lucky winner!  Just enter in the Rafflecopter form below!  Giveaway will end at 11:01 PM, central time on July 19, 2012, Good luck!

This giveaway has ended and Laura J. is the winner!

Family Bed Room, Please

Let me tell you about the past two nights in our house.  Baby D, who just got over strep, now has some sort of allergies/teething problems.  He's been crying in his sleep, :( not sleeping well, tossing and turning, going to bed late, and waking up early.  This kid hates to sleep with anyone, so when I tried, it only got worse.  Captain Fussybuckets, the resident not-so-great sleeper, has been his usual self, up sometime in the middle of the night, coming to our room, OR waking up and coming to find me to go sit with him until he goes back to sleep (insert eye roll here!)  He also had his second and third ever "pee in the bed" accident.  He wanted to stop wearing Pull Ups to bed a month or two ago and was doing great but out of nowhere…."MOMMY!!  I TEE TEED!" at 5 AM.  Awesome.  Then, he came to our bed to be his rabid octopus/kicking and now talking in his sleep kid in the early morning light.  

So, I give up.  This is what I want for my birthday:  Forget king size bed, I want to take all the furniture out of our room and just spray Tempurpedic foam all over the floor, about ten inches high.  Then, we'll get a huge comfy, waterproof covering and lay over it, then a sheet and cover it up, and then that will be the "Family Bed Room."  Perfect, no?  We will all fall asleep in the same room and have a quiet, peaceful night's rest, every night.  If one of the boys has a problem, they'll wake up, remember that Mommy and Daddy are there with them, and then quietly go back to sleep.  (ha!) 

Yes, I know exactly what will happen though…the boys will find us in the middle of the night and become our personal snuggly heaters.  We'll have this huge mattress and all be scrunched up in one corner.  It's inevitable.  But if anyone is out there who wants to experiment this wonderful idea on our family, I'm totally game. :)

And now, I leave you with this popular Co-Sleeping Graphic from howtobeadad.com: