As a parent, there are many times when I have to be soft and gentle with my kids. Their emotions are raw and their feelings get hurt easily. I believe that it's important to be soft with them and consider their feelings at all times. It's amazing the things that Captain Fussybuckets remembers, even from very early on in his life. Sure, there are times when we are short on patience, but I don't want anything that I say or do to damage his little spirit in any way.
I am always telling the boys "be gentle" when they play together because they like to play rough. This is normal, but they need to learn guidelines for their play so they don't get hurt. I think it's a natural instinct to be soft and gentle with babies, but sometimes we forget as they get older. Captain Fussybuckets just laughs and giggles when we tickle him or get a bit rough with him, but he's quick to tell us when enough is enough. It's good that they learn these boundaries and learn to stand up for themselves, so they can tell friends and others that enough is enough.
That's where it's good to be strong for your kids. Being a positive example of standing up for yourself and being strong enough to say no to someone who is bothering you is a very valuable asset to kids these days. Bullying is a huge problem and these kids have got to learn to stand up for themselves AND tell a trusted adult what is going on. If that adult does nothing (shame on them!) then it's important for kids to perservere and find someone who will listen. It's our responsibility as parents and adults to be strong for kids and have the courage to not brush it off as "kids being kids." Stand up for what is right, model appropriate behavior, and show kids how to act. They're not going to learn the right way on their own, so it's our job to teach kids how to act appropriately and know that they can trust us to protect them and give them accurate advice and help when needed.
All the deep (but very important!) stuff aside, now on to the silly side, which, it's always good to mix some silly stuff in along with the hard stuff, in my opinion! It's an election year and if you're like me, you're already tired of the political rants on Facebook and the oh so obnoxious ads, on both sides of the debate. Why our politicians and political fans can't take the good attributes of our children instead of the bad, I'll never know! But, Charmin is lightening the mood with their new Facebook challenge: "Ultra Soft vs. Ultra Strong." Take a look at these "campaign videos" and see what the challenge is all about:
So what's your preference? Soft or Strong? Visit Charmin's Facebook page to vote for your choice!
Keep on being silly, strong, and soft when you need to be, for your kids and all the kids in your life!
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